I have a million and one things to do and I don't now how to balance it all!!!!! I'm a mother, I'm starting a business, I'm a wife, involved in the community, I volunteer, I do this and that and never have time for myself or sleep. HELP!!!! We all know someone like this. And in many instances, this is me as well, as I learn how to "balance" life. How do I balance it all? Is a question I often hear women discussing and trying to figure out. Especially because we often bear soooooo many titles and wear numerous hats. I struggle with this question a lot. I mean A LOT!!! How do you balance it all? How do you be a wife, a mother to two kids, an entrepreneur, active in the community, a friend, encourager, etc... etc... and still find time for yourself? And the answer is ......(drumroll please) I HAVE NO IDEA!!! At first I thought there was a way, then I realized it doesn't exist at all. By definition, balance means:
an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.
a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.
But the reality is life is never in balance more like in rotation. I believe that the things that matter most to you will take turns being your main focal point at that moment. For example from 4:00pm - 9:00pm during the week, my main focus is my family and preparing for dinner, doing homework, spending time with them, reading, corralling cats, I mean putting them to bed. I feel less stressed when I remind myself and realize that my life will never be in balance, however, if I make sure that what matters most to me is always in my rotation and receives my attention at the right time, then I believe I am juggling life better.
So here are my 3 tips to "balancing" life better:
1. Start your day off with a plan - when you spend a few minutes in the morning organizing your thoughts it makes the biggest difference. You are more focused, productive and driven. It brings a sense of purpose when you know what you need to do. I was always teased for my endless, OCD "Things To Do List" but I was productive because I knew what I was going to focus on and what I needed to make it happen.
2. As the saying goes "Eat the frog first" - when you accomplish the hardest things first, which in most cases are the things you are dreading to do, then you already feel accomplished. Therefore, it produces a productive momentum towards the rest of your day. Remember, as I always say, "movement births momentum." Also, if nothing else is accomplished on your list, you can scratch off a major item and that means you can celebrate!
3. Focus on your focal point - when you are looking at what is in rotation for your life, be sure to include all aspects of your life: spiritual, health, loved ones, self-care, business, others, etc... I feel the most satisfied and accomplished when I am able to look at my day and was able to touch the various areas of my life. I feel so productive and fulfilled. When I start my day in prayer, spending those precious moments for myself with God, it sets my day right. Then I bring into focus the next area of my life that needs my attention. Sometimes the hardest challenge is being still and being present. Just focusing on the now, but it makes the biggest difference because you are %100 there for that focus area and not spread out trying to focus on soooo many different things all at the same time.
Below are 10 quotes on planning I came across that really spoke to me and I hope they do the same for you:
1. The most efficient way to live reasonably is every morning to make a plan of one's day and every night to examine the results obtained. - Alexis Carrel
2. You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win. - Zig Ziglar
3. Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success. - Pablo Picasso
4. The world is full of people who have dreams of playing at Carnegie Hall, of running a marathon, and of owning their own business. The difference between the people who make it across the finish line and everyone else is one simple thing: an action plan. - John Tesh
5. Failed plans should not be interpreted as a failed vision. Visions don't change, they are only refined. Plans rarely stay the same, and are scrapped or adjusted as needed. Be stubborn about the vision, but flexible with your plan. - John C. Maxwell
6. Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people's criticisms, carry out your plan. - Paul J. Meyer
7. By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail. - Benjamin Franklin
8. To accomplish great things, we must not only act but also dream. Not only plan but also believe. - Anatole France
9. If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. - Jim Rohn
10. A good plan is like a road map: it shows the final destination and usually the best way to get there. - H. Stanely Judd
Try and look at your life as in rotation versus a balancing act and you may find yourself more productive, fulfilled and "balanced." Always remember "Be BOLD, Be BEAUTIFUL, Be B.O.S.S."
In Love, Janna B. Speaker, BOSS Cultivator, Streamline Success Strategist
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