There is something about coming to a place in your life where you look past the excuses, the lies, the fronting, the insecurities and you come face to face with who you are. I mean who you truly are: the good, the bad and the ugly. I remember the moment that happened in my life. It was the Spring of 2015 and I was going through a program that focused on mindset, healing and weight loss. During this experience, I had a revelation that I never accepted before – I was molested. See, I knew I was molested when I was 10 by another young girl (a distant cousin through marriage) over the course of two years, but I never accepted it happened to me until then. It was a story that was part of my life but I wasn’t connected to the character. This kept me bound and broken in so many ways.
It planted seeds of self-doubt, low self-esteem, not feeling worthy, insecurities, identity issues, body issues, self-love issues – you name it! And I landed the role of victim in my own stage play. I never received help nor did I tell anyone because I was a child who didn’t understand what was going on. These seeds were watered and festered from the lies that were created from those instances. My core beliefs about love, trust, worth and safety had become tainted.
So, when the opportunity arose to interview Toure Roberts on his new book, I jumped because I wanted to hear his perspective about wholeness and how to get there. Just listening to him really shed some light about my own journey and made me wonder what is wholeness? From what I researched, the word whole comes from the Greek words of holos and holokleros meaning all, entire and complete. These two words come from the noun holokleria meaning completeness. So, wholeness is completeness and when I think of completeness, identity comes to mind.
Your identity is the core foundation of who you are, your experiences, and your upbringing all wrapped in one. This can be amazing or horrible, depending on what has happened to you and the story you choose to keep telling yourself. But what we don't realize is that we can change our identity by changing our core beliefs which includes changing our mindset. In Romans 12:2 it says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.” By staying connected to the Father, consistently, you will understand who you truly are and who He created you to be because our identity is in HIM.
Since I know my identity, joy, love, healing, peace and wholeness is in the Father, I reflected upon what really spoke volumes to me from the interview. And of the many things Toure discussed, what he spoke about insecurities really resonated due to my childhood. So many times, these seeds of insecurities are planted and until it is discovered, faced and uprooted, you will be plagued by them. I had my own journey to uprooting insecurities in life – facing what happened to me as a child and the impact it had on my life – so now the question is are you ready to become whole? To discover the root of the invisible boundaries that are keeping you stuck and preventing you from achieving greatness. Are you ready to go from broken to wholeness? I hope you will say yes and choose to change your story today. I wouldn’t be where I am right now, healed and healthy, talking about this if I didn’t say yes to my journey of becoming whole.